Controlling or coercive behaviour is when someone tries to control what you do, who you talk to, and how you think or feel. They may use threats or try to frighten you to make you do what they want, even if it’s not what you want. The abuser will often say they are acting in this way because they love you or are worried about you.
If someone is always telling you what to wear, who to be friends with, or where to go, that is controlling behaviour. It can be scary and make you feel like you don’t have any control over your own life.